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r •» 4«<f^*- T «*.,'•* MISCELLANY. For the Kingston Gazette. R Ir.CKONE R------No. 69. Ccr.iiui'i.i Iftiijper&ie mthijuhelut. C.'.TULLUS. Sif—A mrrefpondent in your Tenth paper promifed direclions for rendering marriages happy, but as he lias forgotten his engagement, I fend you the following observa¬ tions, which if not equal to the fub- |cft. mayJiavc the happy effect of jrounng him from his {lumbers. One of the moil common four- eesofthe mifery of marriages is the fuppofition that they can cure natural defects, by acting as a kind of charm. Tlie newly married are not therefore prepared to encoun¬ ter even fuch disappointments and oppofitions as they were accuftom- cd to bear when fmg'.e. But is it not more rational to believe that whatever defects we may have ci¬ ther of body or of mind, will be increafed but never leffened by I'ucii a connection without the ne- ee'T.iry exertions on our own part. Of bodily infirmities I wifh not to {'peak, as they have very little in¬ fluence upon our happinefi or mif- ery—it is the defects of the mind that embitter the domeflic life, & render home a place of torment. I know indeed that many exam¬ ples may be found of marriages tU&i JuivL. LccoBid d fecund educa¬ tion, which cured all the defects cither left or engrafted by the firft. When a man of fenie and difcre- tion for example, happens to mar¬ ly a woman rather giddy than vi¬ cious, of a good heart but uncul¬ tivated undcriiandlng, he may con¬ trive to give her imperceptibly the rteceiiary information to exhibit in fh'ong colors the ad van 1 ages of prudence and circumfpecuon, and 1 he evils which flow from ihonght- lefFnefs and vice. But to fuececd ir is neeeiTary that the woman be naturally a peribn of found fenfe, trnkk in difcerning what is juft & proper,and refolutc to abftain even iVpm the mod favorite purfuits, when their impropriety is pointed c;\-h r- -.•rr ■••'-,t ■-v ,r.i' :\\\i qualiiks on both fides can very rareiv be ex peeled, for we can ve¬ ry feldom name among ail our ac¬ quaintances two pcrfoiis capable of inftrueting one another in this zrianner. Were it poflible then that cither the man or the woman was cjuaiiiied to point out the cle- iicicncic:; of their partner, it would not follow that the faults would be corrected—they might be {hewn with malignant fupcriority, clci- eribed in exaggerating colors, men¬ tioned with too much harfhnefs, mid even wiien noticed in the mofl conciliating manner, they may not appear defects in the eyes of the guilty perfon.—At all events an education oi this kind can* feldom be truficu, becaufe the parties are not often capable of beeominir m after and fcholar ; it requires much addreu and knowledge on th^s one hand, much docility and good fenfe on the other, cemented by the itrongeir. affection, to make it palatable. It is consequently more for our purpofe to felect one or two llrong rules, which can be •cnilty underitood and calily put in practice—rules which require no great itrctch cf thought to com- p.cheud them, or of judgment to pit them in operation. The firft ju)(. is, <c A uniform defireto pi cafe." Very fine, truly, my reader will perhaps exclaim, and who is ig- jorant of this lagc maxim, Did ever any body doubt that a mutu¬ al defire to pleaie v.-: th.e moft ef¬ fectual fource of domefde felicity. In aniVer to this i mult honettly confefs, that I do not profefs to de¬ liver new rules for the regulation of morals or the conduct of life- The world is too old to leave any thing original to be faid on fab* je&S, which folicit daily attention, and which have been the fertile topics of inftmcrion in every age. It is enough If we can place an old rule in a new point of view, call up the attention of many to its importance, who never regarded it before, and detail 1 he advanta¬ ges, which will naturally proceed from its ftcady practice. Now al- tlio' mod Ladies and Gentlemen are convinced, that they never can be reckoned good company, un- lefs they ftudy to be civil, and po¬ lite in their intcrcourfe will; the world ; yet they feldom bring this rule home—thev feem to leave all their affability, condefeenfion and amenity at the door, and never al¬ low them entrance into their hou- fes. Drums is d:ft:ng»2ifhcd in company for Ids good humor, his ea'ir.'.f; of manners, his mild ad- drefs, and his anxiety 1.0 pieaie. Wh.it excellent company is Dru¬ fus, molt peopic Lw, hi-, concilia- tmg hank cheerful cc-nvcrration charms every one—he is always {./leaf &, always rea&y to Ounge>—■ Follow this polite Gentleman home, look at him as he I hrows himfelf into his chair—bid's me ! is this the cheerful companion, who was Jo eai'y, merry and polite, a few moments ago ? What a frown— what 1 forbidding look. The boy comes in with hi:; flippers to take his boots, and if he does nor phec the bootjack in the proper portion, he receives from this mild mailer a fevere kick. Tlie children know their father too well to come near him, and thev are flealing a fear- ful joy in a dillant corner of the room, when a voice like thunder orders them out. Mis wife ap¬ pears without a finite, her face is full of anxiety, lealt her beloved '(Vu;V Iv in a i.h;v --fh. l].i_ak.-» u» him with hedtatioii, lie anfwera harfhly—Have you been sgrecally entertained this evening, mv dear i1 No—is fupper ready ? It will be ferved in a lew minute it not on the table ' \Vh t r \\ i 1 y is Wh e : v-yny you havejuft come in—it would hdve fpoiled to have diflied it before you came home. You have always fomc mifcrablccxcof:\ it is paft the ufual time, be quick about h: ; let it l:c oil the table immediately, or I will not eat a bit —Now isitpof- fible for any man offenie, and Dru- fus is not a fool, tofuppofc that he incrcaies his own happincis, by be¬ coming proud, haughty, and fu- pereilious in his own family, pee- vilh to all his domeilics, morole in lus conducl:, and angry when he finds any of them pleafcd.—A few days ago his wife went to vilit a lick neighbor, leaving Drums drinki-}g his pint of wine alter dinner, at which time he is gent- left at home. There was only one girl in the houfe, who was in the nurfery with the children. '1 lie wine happened to pleafe the Gen¬ tleman belter than ufual, and I e determined to indulge in another pint, but there was no more on the table, and the cafe flood with the keys in it, about three {teps from his chair—He rin^; the bell —nobody anlwers—he rings again —flill a filcnce—his brows were now knit, and wrath cratherm:: fafc, but to demonftrate the yaft extent of his patience, he gives peal the third—filence ftiil No mortal, cries Drufus, could bear this—he runs to the Kurl^y, for he knew there v.as only one girl in thehoute, and there !u. beholds one of his children a-k:p on one knee, and the lucking imaut on the other. This pi dure to moil people, would have been a t ckra- bie excufe, for not anfwering the bell—not lb to Drulus—he vom¬ its out the molt terrible threats, & unable to contain himfelf, lie give ; the drl. a box on the car. The woman aftoniihed, jumps up, kts tlie ileeoino; child fail on the foot of the cradle, throws the infant nn the bed, and runs out fcrea-idng murder. Your iil tempered peo¬ ple never like to reflect on the mil- chief thev have done, they endea- vor to fuile thought audio iorce tranquillity of mind. Drufus re¬ turned to his wine without ck-ign- inq; to look at the children, he wilhed to believe that lit.' had done nothing amifs, & that they would lie where they were till his wife returned—But their icveams obli¬ ged him to retrace his iteps and as he does not warn affection, tho' he is fo peeviih and ill tempered, he was idled with horror on < >uer~ iii.2 the nurfery to fee hi-, little g'rl Margaret we'lteiinjr in Iicr Uiood, iaelixted tier up^ Sclound that ihc had cut herfelf hwerely on the head by her fall. Here wa-. an end to histrar.quvBtry—hecould no': helo blam-ue- his laamei' — Cf Had 1 taken the trouble ofiicp- of difrrencc, and mi civ \i{*.\ nr.a:n<r for the fcrvanC, a!! t^o n •• have been laved/' But bad ;-a- pcr, pccvi(:inCiS a:i'.l ■•:■■■. ■;•■.;:,!•.'. are no: always with the K&Tha-r.d, not perhaps fo freqaefitly as wit. the wife, and a ■_■/■ ater nu??mer ol famhics arc dillurbed by the per- verfenefs of the Lady, titan the fu!!enncis of tl^e Creritleruan.-— There are many women, who arc in the great id; terrors leaitk ihoiiid be fuppofed, that tb / are nol the hits, as thi_y explain it, not mere¬ ly in direciing the internal econo- my of their familic*;, but tlie huf- band too. Tlvw dr^ careful there- 9 forctd contra.dicb their partner on all occailons, rijriit or v,io:ir—if he with to go c.d1, they are dc- termlncd that he fit ii= go were—if fouth, north. To yield a tingle point would be in their opinionj highly ui(graceful, they rath r chooie to keen their houle in con- tmua! upr.var. It may appear cu¬ rious that fuch women fliould coii- hder, that obedier.ee which cr.'n- Uitutes the true honor of :\ wife, her gveatcit difgrace, and that they fhould rather be diipofed to break their vow taken at the altar to be fubrniffive and obedient, than to keep it—thus chooling perjury h rnifery rather than contentment and peace. Yet no man can be at a. I of s for many fuch examples in tlie circle of his acquaintance. Not that I think the woman fhould be a cypher in hcv own houfe, her o- bedience is the fubmiffion of love, and as long as it remains ib, the commands while flte obeys* It is by her foftnefs, her iviidcrncls & fcction, that flic regulates the prudii.t to cultivate - -,r: htcnefs, and to be civil to ,\\ a our focial intercr*urfe, it i f more neceifary to ph&H t'n. p^ ion we are iru eting t .•?:•• rnn:;' ".. of vhc day, as i; I, p; ;^. ^ .. Off r:.- :., -T,;-,; onccuior. ■;• '.'\ J -a ,. will fmooth ranees, one co another—crr-hmg-. .- \ -. -,,.. fulkv fits, which :r•'•::.-- , r- . of the lives of the •:.,,-, n,j render them fo mi fen .' ■. '" | . hanifiifd, and frniles rr.d - ■ • ." will take up their haul.lv■ . ;n the houfes of all, who as •" 7 ****** to direct ihcmi'elve^ l«v :', •;-., pie and obvious precept. 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The following;, iatVr- pinion (?f the tranllitcn-, wnuins lo.anv valuable nhferrrai" KS c:> i" - :'--' ■'"'i- : ■ .-/---' '-:^..l.. ri lie three foundations of ^v;. i szvg die gift of God, httnsa® citioav, and the event., of j;-Ct I lie three lirit rcqaifar-, <f::. n-.:.; ; ,.i, eye to lee nature, a Juit to feel it, and a rcfoiution ik clare follow it. 'Jlie three things |ndil*pcn% to. genius; underuandiiig;, modi *:t;on, and per&veranee. The rhr.ee things thaterrobfett r-'.-.—v.ooi-, ddcretionand know ledec. Xiie au'ee tokens ni <;caiu?— c \traordinary unclerilancling, ex. traordir.ary conducl:, and extraor- dinaxy exertions. The three tbincrs that inrrovj • ^ - genius—proper exertion, frequent exertion, and fuccefsful exertion. The three thimrs that flippy • • • - • i jTcnm1.—-proipenty, locial ac^uwc* tancc, and apolaule. The three qualifications of port- ry—endowment of cenius, m$r incut from experience, and toici- ty of thought. The three pillars of karniflg-" feeing much, fullering mucM^ w ritintr much. wifnes of l.er Jmlband, iinoorh.s olT his aijv'niks and makes him Printot mA Publ'uhd T.v STEPHEN MILES. , A flwdOttt* Eal\of\VALKta'5 W<*. aelighr in an. ieipatiug her clefires. * ™ *^LM yf U AM" ;/. • ,, wft i i um ono defire nleale, it pnr±£Mve tf&fr _ wft'i ■ uniform defire is not eafy to conceive ■ ■ «■ ' iSr*****